My name is Jonathan Merker and I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Washington State, license number #LH60547238. I graduated with a Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology in 2013 from The Seattle School. I've worked in an LGTBQ counseling center, with families experiencing crises and bereavement, and have always maintained a private practice where I specialize in gay men and couples.
My individual counseling style is narrative and relational, which means we spend time truly understanding your story. The more we understand about your history and patterns, the more I'm able to offer guidance that allows you to transcend the things that keep you stuck. Gay men come to me for a variety of reasons, including but not limited to: Relationships, sex, depression, family conflict, trauma and abuse, and bereavement.
My couples counseling style is very active. I offer immediate observations and suggestions for changing behaviors and beliefs. This allows your relationship to change in the moment during counseling and continue successfully after our session. I work well with men who are ready to work on hard on themselves and their relationship. My couples counseling theory and training draws from clinicians such as David Schnarch, Esther Perel, and Sue Johnson.
My couples counseling areas of expertise run the gamut of gay themes and issues: sexuality, communication, monogamy and polyamory, open and closed sexual parameters, kink to vanilla sex, HIV, PrEP, serodiscordant relationships, cultural differences, trauma, religion, bereavement, long distance... the list goes on. Many couples choose to work with me because they can't find a local gay therapist and straight therapists don't seem to understand their gay relationship.