Gay Men's Counseling Alliance

Online counseling for gay couples by a licensed mental health counselor.
Live your best life, together. 


Services & Pricing


I provide video-chat counseling for gay couples. In addition to regular scheduled sessions, I offer counseling on an on-call basis to help you resolve arguments as they occur.

You and your partner can be in the same room sharing a screen, or in separate locations each video conferencing in using my HIPAA compliant video chat service. I offer a free consultation with every couple prior to starting counseling together so we can assess your needs and you can get to know me and my style.

I have limited sliding-scale openings based on financial need. Please contact me for more information.

  • Scheduled 1-hour session: $160 

  • On-call session 30-60 minutes:    $80-$160 depending on length

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My name is Jonathan Merker and I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Washington State, license number #LH60547238. I graduated with a Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology in 2013 from The Seattle School, and have since specialized in working with gay men and families in crisis and trauma.

My couples counseling theory and training draws from clinicians such as David Schnarch, Esther Perel, and Sue Johnson. My counseling style is very active. I offer immediate observations and suggestions for changing behaviors and beliefs. This allows your relationship to change in the moment during counseling and continue successfully after our session.

My areas of expertise run the gamut of gay themes and issues: sexuality and sexual health, relationship dynamics, monagamous and polyamorous lifestyles, open and closed sexual parameters, kink to vanilla sex, HIV, PrEP, serodiscordant relationships, communication issues, cultural differences, trauma, parenting, religion, gender, bereavement, long distance relationships, family issues...the list goes on. If you're dealing with it, I've probably helped someone through it before. 

Your relationship is gay.
Your counselor should be, too.



Jonathan Merker, MA LMHC
Gay Men's Counseling Alliance

I respond to email and phone inquiries within 48 hours.

The fastest way to begin working with me is to include your partner's email address. I will then email both of you in response to set up a free consultation.

Please note that in order to request an on-call session you must have completed my intake forms and have had at least one scheduled session.


Frequently Asked Questions

How does on-call counseling work?

On call sessions are subject to availability. Once you and your partner have completed the intake forms and had one scheduled session, you may send a text message to me when you are in the middle or an argument or conflict. Depending on my availability, I will attempt to have a 30-60 minute session with you within one hour of receiving your text. On-call sessions are the same price per minute as a scheduled session. Most couples find this to be one of the most effective uses of couples counseling as we can deal with issues directly in the moment, as opposed to you telling me about arguments that took place several days ago. 

If I am not available at the time of your request, I will set up an appointment with you as soon as possible if you desire.

Can we see you from anywhere in the U.S.?

Yes. I am licensed in Washington State, so if you reside in a different state you must sign a document agreeing to receive counseling based on Washington State's rules and regulations, found here, instead of the counseling rules and regulations of your state of residence. All of my forms are signed electronically. My video counseling service requires high-speed internet, Chrome or Safari, and can be accessed on a laptop, tablet, and smart phone.

Do you accept insurance?

I do not, and most insurances do not reimburse for marriage or family counseling.