Gay Men's Counseling Alliance

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Online counseling for gay men and couples by a licensed mental health counselor.


My name is Jonathan Merker and I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Washington State, license number #LH60547238. I graduated with a Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology in 2013 from The Seattle School. I've worked in an LGTBQ counseling center, with families experiencing crises and bereavement, and have always maintained a private practice where I specialize in gay men and couples.

My individual counseling style is narrative and relational, which means we spend time truly understanding your story. The more we understand about your history and patterns, the more I'm able to offer guidance that allows you to transcend the things that keep you stuck. Gay men come to me for a variety of reasons, including but not limited to: Relationships, sex, depression, family conflict, trauma and abuse, and bereavement.

My couples counseling style is very active. I offer immediate observations and suggestions for changing behaviors and beliefs. This allows your relationship to change in the moment during counseling and continue successfully after our session. I work well with men who are ready to work on hard on themselves and their relationship. My couples counseling theory and training draws from clinicians such as David Schnarch, Esther Perel, and Sue Johnson.

My couples counseling areas of expertise run the gamut of gay themes and issues: sexuality, communication, monogamy and polyamory, open and closed sexual parameters, kink to vanilla sex, HIV, PrEP, serodiscordant relationships, cultural differences, trauma, religion, bereavement, long distance... the list goes on. Many couples choose to work with me because they can't find a local gay therapist and straight therapists don't seem to understand their gay relationship.

You're gay.
Your relationship is gay.
Your counselor should be, too.


Sessions & Pricing


You can see me from wherever you are!

All my sessions are offered via online video chat using a HIPAA compliant video chat service. I schedule appointments with individuals and couples, and also offer on-call sessions for couples to de-escalate fights as they happen. For couples, you and your partner can be in the same room sharing a screen, or in separate locations each video conferencing in.

I offer a free 15-minute consultation so we can assess your needs and you can get to know me and my style. You can even schedule one for today.


  • Individual session (50-minutes):  $125 

  • Couples Counseling (1 hour):  $140

  • On-call couples counseling (30 minutes):  $100 

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Jonathan Merker, MA LMHC
Gay Men's Counseling Alliance

I respond to email and phone inquiries within 48 hours.

You may book a free 15 minute consultation by clicking the button below. If you desire a consultation time that is not listed, please fill out the contact form and I will help accomodate your request. 


Frequently Asked Questions

How does on-call counseling work?

On call sessions are subject to availability. Once you and your partner have completed the intake forms and had one scheduled session, you may send a text message to me when you are in the middle or an argument or conflict. Depending on my availability, I will have a 20-40 minute session with you usually within one hour of receiving your text. Most couples find this to be one of the most effective uses of couples counseling as we can deal with issues directly in the moment, as opposed to you telling me about arguments that took place several days ago. 

If I am not available at the time of your request, I will set up an appointment with you as soon as possible if you desire.

Can I/We see you from anywhere?

Yes. I am licensed in Washington State. My intake paperwork includes a clause that explains that if you reside in a different state or country you are agreeing to receive counseling based on Washington State's rules and regulations, found here, instead of the counseling rules and regulations of your state or country of residence. All of my forms are signed electronically. My video counseling service requires high-speed internet, Chrome, Safari, or an app on your iPhone or iPad, and can be accessed on a desktop, laptop, tablet, and smart phone.

Do you accept insurance?

I do not accept insurance at this time. If you wish I can provide you with a superbill to submit to your insurance for reimbursement. A superbill does not guarantee reimbursement. You are responsible for understanding your insurance's reimbursement criteria for Out of Network Mental Health Counseling providers.